Writing doesn’t have to be a lonely affair

I’d like to begin this post by thanking my friend and writing partner Julia for watching my back the past couple of weeks. She wrote three good posts in a row to keep our blog current (a must for bloggers who want to attract and hold readers!) while I worked on recovering from a severe case of tendonitis in my shoulders. I’m not rid of the gunk yet, but it’s getting better. Better enough, anyway, to write this short post today.

As writers, our lot is a lonely one. While we may mingle with other writers via classes, critique groups, or book clubs, we do the majority of our writing alone at the computer. That’s why it’s so imperative to seek out other writers as friends and get together with them on a face-to-face basis as often as possible. Writing friends understand how difficult it is to be a writer. The rest of our friends either think we are very cool and thus live an exotic life of luxury, or consider our writing a silly waste of time (there’s rarely an in-between). A good writing friend is like the perfect cup of coffee on a cold winter morning—ready to perk you up and get you going.

We all need that shot of encouragement now and then to keep from becoming despondent (well, unless we have achieved success along the lines of Stephen King). What we do is hard. It’s really, really hard. We work for years to perfect a project which has little to no chance of getting sold to a major house. We try to prepare ourselves for the ultimate rejections that will come back in waves during our agent search.  We flinch at the idea of a zero advance if we are lucky enough to connect with a midlist publisher who is willing to spend $50,000 and upwards to get our book into print. Through it all, we are expected to hold our heads high, smile and assure our family that none of these things bother us in the least. We are writers after all. What did we expect?

I’m so grateful to have Julia in my life. I can grumble about things to her and she understands exactly what I’m talking about because she is or has experienced the exact same things numerous times over. Bottom line, we have each other’s backs. I encourage each and every one of you to keep searching for that special writing friend who will have yours.